2012 Year in Review

Posted: January 1, 2013 in Uncategorized
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2012 Was a strange year for me. Seems like in 2010, my life went on a downhill spiral when my store I owned went out of business. We proceeded to lose our house, are cars and one of our dogs. We moved to San Antonio, TX where a few months later we filed for divorce. 2011 stress continued with my ex taking off to Arizona with our daughter. Legal wranglings  ensued and during this time, I met my now wife Lori.

So in 2012, Lori and I got engaged, and then later married in July. I also got to spend the summer with my little girl. This was the most time I’d spent with her since before the divorce. We went to waterparks (a little one anyway). We spent a weekend at South Padre Island, went tubing on the river, among other adventures. It was fun to see her bond with her new step siblings.

Also in 2012, around March I released my book, The Hand of God. Sales were slow and dismal and it was hard to get anywhere in marketing. Since I worked full time, I was limited in time and funds to do the book justice. In June, Vamptasy Publishing offered me a contract, and I accepted. So they put the Hand of God out under their imprint. Sales did get a good bump at first, and then leveled off.

During the early fall, I initiated a custody case against my ex for custody of my daughter. This was for a variety of reasons. One of which was the fact she was dating a registered sex offender and knew about it, but didn’t see a problem with it. For several weeks in July and August, this had to be one of the most stressful times in my life.  After a couple of hearings, the judge decided that I did not meet the burden of proof to change custody. The hearings were only emergency hearings, not full hearings. So I had to show daughter was in immediate danger. Ex said she broke up with the pedophile, so the judge figured it was all better. The case then was transferred to Arizona, where it is still pending trial in March.

Another big thing happened in 2012. Since things went south in 2010, I began to suffer severe fatigue, depression and weight gain. By summer of 2012, I was just over 350 lbs. While tubing on the river with the kids, my tube got hung up on some rocks. Some college kids came drifting up and one of them said:

“Hey look guys, we got a beached whale up here!”

That set something off in my head. It was like someone flipped a switch. I was so angry at the time, I could hardly see straight. But I was more sad and depressed that what they were saying was true, and as much as they pissed me off, in my current physical condition, there was nothing I could do about it.

Over the next month or so, I began walking 20-30 minutes a day. Then I started swimming laps for 30-60 minutes a day. In a couple months’ time I lose around ten pounds.  I wanted to do something more. I’d looked into some high intensity workouts, including Cross Fit. Then I found Ohana Jiu Jitsu. I went there one day for a free class. I took their Muay Thai class.  I will say, it was hard as hell. We started out doing 100 jumping jacks, and I barely made it past 20. The instructors were all kind and supportive. After that class, I went back a few days later. That class nearly killed me. After 20 minutes, I was on the ground, puking and shaking. Fortunately, as my heart rate settled down, I was ok.

Over the next four months of 2012, I went to Muay Thai, Jiu jitsu and MMA classes. I began blogging my experience as well on my blog at http://fat2fighter.com. I lost around 50 lbs during that time, though I’ve gained around ten back in December. I was out a couple weeks this month with bruised ribs, and then we only had class one or two nights a week over the holidays.

My wife has been very supportive during my training. I am now gearing up for an MMA fight hopefully in October 2013. Between now and then, I hope to compete in at least one Jiu Jitsu tournament and a smoker. A smoker is an exhibition Muay Thai fight where you wear regular boxing gloves, shin guards and head gear. All these things are to help me get ready for live competition. The key will be on if I can drop weight to at least 250 lbs. hopefully I can hit that by summer.

So, this has been a year that has been both exciting and sad at the same time. It seems the past few months’ things have turned around and I’ve managed to catch a few breaks. Hopefully 2013 will lead to some big things. I’m almost done with my second book, plus the MMA training and the new blog. For the first time in a few years, I’m not going into a new year surrounded by turmoil and uncertainty. I’m going in with anticipation and ready to do the work it takes to reach my goals. I know I can.

  1. Linna Drehmel says:

    wow you have been busy!

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